Turns out they were grieving and I made it worse.
I yelled about respecting food while tossing a full plate myself.
I was convinced that getting new drawers would make me neater. Spent a weekend setting them up in my living room. Now they're just filled with random stuff I shoved in there. My action of buying more storage totally contradicted my goal to declutter. It's a wake-up call for sure.
I always said spreading rumors is wrong, but I shared one that night. Seeing my friend's disappointment was a wake-up call.