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c/taboo-topics•milam48milam48•1mo ago

My aunt's funeral last March made me stop pretending I'm close with family I barely know

I was standing in the back of the church in Albany after the service, and my cousin Sarah came up hugging me like we were best friends. We haven't spoken in maybe 6 years, not since she skipped my wedding and didn't even send a card. She kept saying "we need to stay in touch" and I just felt this weird pressure to agree even though I knew we wouldn't. I finally just said "honestly, we don't really know each other anymore" and she got this shocked look and walked off. My mom was furious with me but I felt lighter than I have in ages. Has anyone else stopped pretending with relatives and gotten flak for it?
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vera_robinson36
Laughing at @robins83's advice with my mom glaring at me across the room right now.
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robins831mo ago
Set a boundary, stick to it. Feels good doesn't it lol.
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vera_lewis2
Ugh but what if the other person doesn't respect it though?
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