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Tried writing a proper apology letter to my brother instead of texting, then deleted it after 4 drafts and never sent any of them.
I spent a whole afternoon getting real specific about the time I borrowed his car and returned it with a cracked taillight, but putting it on paper made me feel worse not better, so now I just wonder if anyone else has found that the act of writing it out sometimes makes you realize you are not actually sorry for the thing itself.
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williams.sage4d ago
Man, the "deleted it after 4 drafts and never sent any of them" part really hit me. I've done that exact thing more times than I can count, where you start writing and realize halfway through that you're trying to force feelings that just aren't there. I think sometimes we want to be the bigger person so bad that we convince ourselves we owe someone an apology, even when deep down we know the thing wasn't really that big of a deal or it was more of a mutual mess. One time I spent two hours crafting a letter to an old friend about a fight we had, and by the end I was just mad all over again and deleted the whole thing. Your mileage may vary, but I've found that if the act of writing it makes you feel worse, that's a pretty good sign you shouldn't be sending it at all.
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spencer_coleman3d ago
Read an article once that said unsent letters are a form of closure. Makes sense.
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spencer7823d ago
Yeah, williams.sage is right about that. I've done the same thing more times than I care to remember, and it's usually the ones you never send that teach you the most about yourself.
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