tessa_murray•1d agoProlific Poster

My college roommate's birthday party at The Rusty Anchor changed how I handle apologies.

I never sent the letter to my friend Sam after I ruined his surprise party by accidentally telling his girlfriend about it. Part of me thinks a clean break was better than a messy apology, but the other part knows I should have owned up. Has anyone else decided not to apologize for a big mistake at a specific event?

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william_harris1d agoTop Commenter

Seriously? A clean break is just you being a coward. You blew up a surprise party, that's a real jerk move. Not apologizing just lets you off the hook while your friend is stuck wondering why you ghosted him. It's like spilling a drink on someone's shirt and then just walking away instead of grabbing a napkin. Owning your mess is the only way to actually fix things.

the_simon1d ago

Ever feel like a clean break just leaves you with more guilt than closure?

miller.emery1d ago

Disagree with the clean break take sometimes. Forcing an apology can make a bad situation way worse, like picking at a scab. Sometimes leaving it alone is the real kindness.

patricia_gonzalez1d ago

My cousin's wedding last year taught me that clean breaks just leave loose ends.