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Got ghosted after a great first date, never sent the apology letter I wrote
I went on this amazing date with a girl named Sarah at a little taco spot on Elm Street in Portland. We talked for 3 hours, laughed a ton, and I thought we really clicked. Then she just vanished, stopped replying to texts, no explanation at all. I wrote her this long apology letter trying to figure out what I did wrong, but I never sent it because honestly I realized she just wasn't that into me and that's fine. Has anyone else drafted a letter to someone who ghosted them?
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jana_shah4d ago
That taco spot on Elm Street is actually my go-to for their al pastor, so this hits close to home. Here's something nobody's brought up yet - maybe writing that letter wasn't about her at all, maybe it was a way for you to process what happened without actually having to face her. I've done the same thing before, you know, spent hours drafting something I knew I'd never send because the real work was just getting my own thoughts straight. The moment you realized "she just wasn't that into me" is actually the closure, not the letter itself. Holding onto that draft feels like carrying a rock in your pocket, but throwing it away (or deleting it) is honestly the final step. You already got your answer the second you decided not to send it.
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karen_sanchez495d ago
Oh man, I totally disagree with your take here. I mean, maybe it's just me but I think you should have sent that letter. What's the harm in being honest about how you felt? Yeah, she ghosted you and that sucks, but writing a letter and never sending it is like keeping a secret you're just carrying around. Maybe she would have respected you more for being upfront, or at least you'd have closure instead of wondering. Idk, holding onto that unsent letter seems like it just lets her ghost you twice in your own head.
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