My $300 'happy hour' habit is just hiding how lonely I feel

I've been going out for drinks with coworkers every Friday for about 6 months, acting like I'm having a blast. Really, I'm just trying to fill the silence in my apartment. I've spent close to $300 a month smiling and nodding while feeling completely empty inside. Has anyone else used spending money on social stuff to cover up a deeper feeling?

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wyatt_mitchell2610d ago

It's like what danielnelson said, we're all just renting a little company for a while.

danielnelson10d ago

A buddy of mine did the same thing with weekly trivia nights. He’d drop a ton on rounds for the table, laughing the loudest, but his place was dead quiet the other six nights. It finally hit him when he checked his bank account and saw the pattern. He wasn’t paying for trivia, he was paying to rent a feeling for a few hours. Isn’t it wild how easy it is to confuse spending with connecting?

victor_robinson10d ago

Yeah, I mean, I've totally been that guy. I used to buy drinks for everyone at my old work happy hours, thinking it made me part of the group. Then I switched jobs and realized none of those people ever texted me. I was just buying myself a bit of noise to fill the quiet. Kind of a sad way to spend money, when you look at it.