I used to write apology letters the night I messed up, now I wait 3 days and it changed the whole thing
I used to sit down the same night and write the whole letter while I was still upset, and every single one turned into me explaining why I was right. Last month I started waiting 3 days before I write anything, just to let it settle. The first time I tried it, I opened my notes app and barely wrote 2 lines, because most of what I wanted to say was just me being mad. I keep those short ones now in a folder called drafts I will not send, and there are 6 of them from April alone. I mean the waiting part is the whole trick for me, it lets me see what I actually regret and what I was just heated about. Do you all write right away or wait it out? Curious if 3 days sounds too long or too short to anyone else.