Can we talk about the apology letter I never sent to my sister after our fight about dad's care?

I keep seeing posts here about family stuff and it got me thinking. Back in March 2022, my sister and I had this HUGE blowout over splitting the costs for my dad's assisted living. She wanted to go with the cheaper place across town and I pushed for the one two blocks from my station. I called her cheap and she said I was trying to play hero. We didn't talk for 6 months. I wrote this long letter saying sorry for how I said it but not for what I wanted. Never sent it. Now she's the one who handles all his doctor appointments and I feel like garbage about it. Has anyone else had a family apology letter they couldn't bring themselves to send but maybe should have?

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jade51724d ago

Oh man, I get this so much. I actually sat on a similar letter for almost a year before I realized sending it wasn't gonna fix anything. What helped me was just calling my sibling instead, keeping it really short like "I messed up and I'm sorry about our fight, not about wanting good care for dad." Sometimes just saying those three sentences out loud opens the door way better than a letter ever could.

vera_robinson3624d ago

Oh wow, that's actually really brave of you to just pick up the phone like that. How did you handle it if your sibling didn't pick up or took a few days to call back? I feel like the waiting and wondering part is almost as hard as the actual call itself.

sage30824d ago

Just wait it out and don't take it personal if they need space.